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How to stay in touch with friends: simple ideas that work
Simple ways to keep friendships going: specific invitations, a regular weekly check-in, letters and cards, shared hobbies, and where to find local groups and classes.
By Mori · 3 min readPublished · Updated
The easiest way to stay in touch is to make it regular and specific: a standing coffee date, a weekly phone call, or an invitation with a day and an activity already chosen. Small, repeated contact keeps a friendship going better than occasional big plans.
The National Institute on Aging recommends scheduling time each day to stay in touch with family, friends and neighbors, whether in person, by phone, email or text.
Make invitations easy to say yes to
“We should get together sometime” rarely turns into a plan. Suggest a day, a time and one thing to do, and leave room for the other person to change it. For example: “Would you like a walk in the park on Thursday morning? If that doesn’t suit, I’m free on Saturday too.”
Choose something with a natural end time, such as coffee, a short walk or a visit to a local exhibition, so it fits into a busy week.
Keep a regular rhythm
A standing arrangement removes the need to plan each time: a phone call every Sunday afternoon, lunch on the first Friday of the month, or a walk after a weekly class. Put it in your calendar like any other appointment.
Stay connected at a distance
NIA notes that sending letters or cards is another good way to keep up friendships, and that video chat can help you stay engaged. A short handwritten note can mean a lot; our guide to making a simple handmade card shows a design you can finish in an afternoon.
If you would like to try video calls but are not sure how, NIA suggests signing up for a class at your local public library or community center.
Meet people through what you enjoy
NIA suggests finding an activity you enjoy, restarting an old hobby, or taking a class: you may meet people with similar interests along the way. Volunteering is another way to meet people while doing something useful.
To find local programs for older adults, the Eldercare Locator, a public service of the US Administration for Community Living, connects you with services in your area. You can also call 1-800-677-1116.
- Library book clubs and craft groups.
- Community center or senior center classes.
- Walking groups and garden clubs.
- Volunteering with a local organization.
If plans fall through
People have different schedules, energy and responsibilities. If a plan does not work out, suggest a smaller one or a new date rather than letting it drop. A quick message saying you were thinking of someone also keeps the connection going.
Common questions
How often should I contact a friend?
There is no rule, but a regular rhythm such as a weekly call or monthly visit is easier to keep than waiting for the right moment.
Where can I meet new friends later in life?
Classes, clubs and volunteering built around something you enjoy. Libraries, community centers and the Eldercare Locator can point you to local options.
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